Sometimes when I look at Robert, I am perplexed at how someone can love me unconditionally and accept me for who I am. Robert is truly a wonderful person who tolerates my bratty and bitchy attitude most of the time. Don’t get me wrong – Robert will put his foot down when enough is enough. Similarly Robert’s annoying habits and absent-minded ways can drive me absolutely insane sometimes, but I also reciprocate the same tolerance for him. He and I call each other out on our b.s., and we wouldn’t have it any other way. 
After all, if you love someone you love and embrace everything about that person, from the good, bad, ugly, stinky, dirty, and silly – right…?? Then again I did mention this in my wedding vows: “In good times and in bad, I will be my best for you. With all that I am and all that I have, now and forever.”
Last night while browsing through my old Livejournal blog posts, I started compiling a chronology of events that were ironic, if not funny and poignant about the evolution of my feelings and thoughts on love which ultimately foreshadow my romance with Robert. Here they are:
April 4, 2003: I wrote “Fate is what is set out for us, and it is based not on merit. But what can be changed is our destiny. I’ve never really understood what people are on about when they talk about ‘fate.’ I do believe that nothing happens “for no reason” because, because on a basic level, there *are* the scientific facts of causality and probability to explain that most things *do* happen for a reason.”
July 11, 2003: I wrote “I just feel bad for the poor bastard who’ll marry me one day.”
July 3, 2004: I wrote “Love has become a four-letter word. It’s one of the most overused, under-appreciated, misunderstood words in the English language. Nowadays, the image of love seems more like a 7/11; a convenience store on the road of life, designed to provide satisfactory feelings without too much effort, rather than the classic sentiment associated with fairytales like Cinderella.”
August 17, 2004: I wrote “Ever since I saw the movie, Runaway Bride, I’ve never looked at myself the same way again. I was no better than Julia Roberts’ character in the movie, only I’ve never had committed myself to the point of marriage. So, for my next “relationship” – whenever I attempt to flee again (and I know I will), I want him to stand up to me! Hold his grounds! Don’t surrender to my layers of bullshit. I want him to hold me, fight against my selfish wants, and push back even more. I don’t want him to walk away, but instead say “No, I won’t let you leave me so quickly and so easily. Not without a fight.” I want him to know that I’m worth fighting for, and that he won’t let me go just because I’m scared of being close to him. Yes, that is EXACTLY what I want because love is supposed to be worth fighting for. Isn’t it?”
May 23, 2005: Via a blog post to my Livejournal friends, I shared a summary of all the crazy, hilarious, and disgusting online messages I received from a bunch of losers and assholes.
May 23, 2005: A couple of hours after I wrote the aforementioned summary, I received a message from Robert on Myspace with the following: “hio. hmm I’ma half azn virgo in herndon ~`-P whens yer b-day? lol -ciaoz.” [the story of how we met then unfolds from there]
May 25, 2005: Robert messaged me on Myspace: “Hey lady ^^ apprently I get to repeat my presentation next tuesday weeeee hows work going? *hugs and kisses and stuff ^^ can you tell I’ve already had too much coffee? can’t wait to see you again, hmm once we’ve got paycheck we must go shopping.. enough random ttyl.”
June 4, 2005: Robert and I hit the ‘official’ boyfriend and girlfriend status.
June 24, 2005: I wrote “Even though it’s been a long time since the words “I love you” were spoken with heart, I know I’m not looking forward to hearing them – at least for a while. I don’t know what I would do if that ever happened again, but I’m not waiting to find out.”
July 4, 2005: Robert and I exchanged those magical three words: I love you.
February 26, 2010: Robert finally proposed to me!
October 1, 2011: I married the love of my life. 
Isn’t it funny how things turn out in life?
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I remember that Runaway Bride post now. You have to admit, Robert really followed that advice didn’t he?
October 10th, 2011 | 1:24 pm EST
Ha! John- you remembered that post? That’s so wild.
I would’ve never thought that I’d meet a guy who listened to anything I said, much less follow my advice. I’m just glad I did! 
Also btw- I did find a post where you responded to an online survey stating that you found my blog around April 2002. Craziness!
October 10th, 2011 | 5:42 pm EST
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